Pregnancy and new parenthood can be a time when domestic abuse (intimate partner violence) increases. Nobody has the right to threaten you, or verbally, emotionally, sexually or physically abuse you. If this is happening to you, it’s also harming your children, even if they aren’t being abused. You must get help.
What are the warning signs that you or someone you love is being abused?
You or the person you love is:
• Apologetic and making excuses for their partners aggression/anger
• Nervous when their partner is around
• Often sick or missing work
• Seems to be “accident prone” with lots of bruises that they try to cover
• Sad, lonely, withdrawn
• Using drugs or alcohol to cope
Your (loved one’s) partner:
• Puts you/your loved one down
• Does all of the talking and dominates the conversation
• Checks up on you/your loved one all the time, even at work
• Tries to act like the victim; blames you/your loved one for the abuse
• Tries to keep you/them from seeing friends and family
• Acts as if they own you/your loved one
• Acts like they are superior and have more value than their partner
If you or someone you love is in danger, call 9-1-1.
If you are in an abusive relationship, help is available. Call VictimLink BC at 1-800-563-0808. The line is open 24 hours per day, 7 days per week, and your call will be completely confidential. Someone is waiting to talk to you right now. You can also visit the website (don’t forget to clear your browser history after, if needed.)
If you suspect that someone you love is being abused by their partner, this online brochure will give you the tools you need to help them.
Learn more about transition housing that’s available to women and their children if they are in danger of abuse.