Getting your child settled

Some babies have no problems staying with a babysitter or going to daycare. They happily wave bye to their parents and are soon playing and content. Other babies have a much harder time. Separation anxiety is a common challenge. When your baby seems inconsolably sad or angry as you are leaving them, it can be very distressing for both of you. However, it’s very important for your baby’s development to learn to be without you. There are things you can do to make the separation easier for everyone.

• Play games to show that things that go away come back again, like peek-a-boo.
• Read stories where a child or animal is away from their parents and has a good experience.
• Visit a new daycare or babysitter for a fun visit before your child has their first stay there.
• Don’t add new things to your routine, such as a new playgroup, until your baby has adjusted to their childcare routine.
• When leaving your baby, act calm and relaxed.
• Always take time to say “good-bye”; sneaking away while your baby isn’t looking will almost always make the situation worse next time.
• Give yourself lots of time with the new caregiver to transition before you have to leave.